Taming The Tongue Part I



Understanding the Power of Words.

We as human beings can not tame our own tongue. BUT with the help of Holy Spirit it can be tamed, it’s through Him do we have self-control.

Sticks and stones may break my bones (but words will never hurt me). So NOT true!

 Wounding words can come from people you hardly know and from those you love the most such as your family and friends.  Our words carry enormous weight. More than we sometimes think your words can often impact people for decades, providing the courage to press on or one more reason to give up.

Ephesians 4:29 

Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear” (NASB).

This verse provides three characteristics of wholesome speech:

  1. Wholesome words build people up. This is the meaning of the word “edification.” It’s the same word from which we get “edifice” or building. Other people, the Bible tells us, are temples (see 1 Corinthians 3:16 and 6:19). As leaders, we have the privilege of co-laboring with God to build these living cathedrals.

  2. Wholesome words are timely. The right words at the wrong time can be just as damaging as the wrong words. Words left unsaid can also be hurtful. As leaders, it takes discernment to know when and if to speak. The right word spoken at the right time can make all the difference for someone.

  3. Wholesome words provide grace. I take this as more than merely being generous or accommodating—though those are both important. I see grace as also the power of God to do His will (see Philippians 2:13). As leaders, our words can either empower people and make them want to press on or diminish them and make them want to quit.

King Solomon said, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21). Every day, we are shaping reality for someone by the words that we use with them. The choice is ours. How will our words impact others?

Question: How have the words of another—positive or negative—impacted your life?